Life Is Not Always Fair

Life is not always fair and neither are people, which includes you and me. Sometimes we are taken advantage of. Sometimes we do all the right things and we still end up losing. Sometimes people, who we love and trust, hurt us with their words or deeds, even after we have unconditionally loved and supported them for years. Sometimes our good intentions are unappreciated and or misinterpreted. Our challenge is to grieve this unfairness, which requires us to do deep psycho-spiritual work. It is very challenging to not retaliate against those who have hurt or cheated us. Only a Self-mastered adult can own the unalterable Law that Life is not always fair. You win some and you lose some this is just the way it is on the earth plane. You can accept that or you can spend your life fighting your way up stream against the flow of life. The choice is yours.

Things Do Not Always Go According to Plan

We make plans in an attempt to control what will happen. We are challenged with the fact that "life" has a mind of its own because man plans and God laughs. The paradox that we live in God's river, with our boat named free will, where we are free to struggle up stream against the flow or we can serenely float down stream with the flow of life....is always a choice. As Self-mastered adults we need to accept the things about life that we cannot change, the "what is" "as is" elements of life. This helps us accept ourselves, people, and life's experiences "as is." Being an emotionally mature adult means that you accept the fact that some of your plans will not work out the way your ego says it should.

Five Things I Cannot Change

1. Everything Changes and Ends
2. Things Do Not Always Go According to Plan
3. Life Is Not Always Fair
4. Pain Is A Part of Life
5. People are Not Loving and Loyal "All" the Time

Everything Changes and Ends

The first thing I need to accept about what I cannot change is defined in the Law of Impermanence, which states that everything, even the Sun and mountains change, end and die. Every beginning leads to an ending. All relationships end with death or seperation. No one gets out of the physical life alive. All our possessions will deteriorate. The fact that reality is impermanent does not mean that it is trivial, useless, or superficial. Life's temporary nature helps us to value it as a short-term blessing. It can give you a sense of life's holiness, which is actually wholeness. Holiness is the whole condition of things and human relationships, which includes beginnings and endings. The path into the mystery of change and endings may be the most difficult paradox we will ever transcend. It asks us to say yes with gusto to "what is" and yes to endings, which do not feel good.

Wise Words

To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.

-RALPH WALDO EMERSON

Freedom

The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not "the thinker." The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realize that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realize that all the things that truly matter- beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace- arise from beyond the mind.

You begin to awaken.

(Eckhart Tolle)