"Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviors.
Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits.
Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny."
MAHATMA GANDHI
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Thursday, August 25, 2011
ORIAH MOUNTAIN DREAMER, INDIAN ELDER
"I want to know if you are willing to disappoint another
in order to be true to your authentic self."
Friday, August 19, 2011
Something to think about
I once heard a story about a group of recently departed men and women who found themselves standing in line before the proverbial pearly gates. Anticipating divine judgment about their lives, they all began to question themselves about their earthly behavior. "Was I a good parent?" "Did I accomplish something of value in my life?" "Did I attend religious services on the Sabbath?" "Did I donate enough to the needy?" And when they finally reached the gate, all these souls were asked only one question, "How well did you love?"
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Thursday, July 7, 2011
The Benefits of Setting Goals by Hal Urban
1. MOTIVATION: Goals are the starting blocks of motivation. They give us a reason to get off our duffs and get going.
2. INDEPENDENCE: Goals help us take charge of our own lives. Instead of following the crowd or wandering through life, we choose our own path, the one that leads to fulfillment of our ambitions.
3. DIRECTION: Goals give us a destination. We're far more likely to get someplace when we know where we're going.
4. MEANING: Goals give us a sense of purpose. Life has more meaning when we're clear on what we want. Instead of merely existing from one day to the next, our goals give us reasons to start really living.
5. ENJOYMENT: Goals are the antidote to the most dreaded of all social diseases: Boredom. How can you be bored when you've got exciting things to do? Goals make our lives more fun, more interesting, and more challenging.
6. FULFILLMENT: Goals, more than anything else, help us reach our potential. Setting goals helps us see whats possible. Each successful step toward attaining them builds confidence. Each goal completed helps us see more of whats possible and leads to new goals and more success.
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Our Deepest Fear Is.....
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God! Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine like children do. We are meant to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. Its not in some of us; its in all of us! And as we let our light shine, we unconditionally give others permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
MARIANNE WILLIAMSON
Thursday, June 16, 2011
"The Prophet" Kahlil Gibran
And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children. And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have there own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have there own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
"How to solve our human problems"
It is very important to identify the actual cause of whatever unhappiness we feel. If we are forever blaming our difficulties on others, this is a sure sign that there are still many problems and faults within our own mind. If we were truly peaceful inside and had our mind under control, difficult people or circumstances would not be able to disturb this peace, and so we would feel no compulsion to blame anyone or regard them as our enemy.
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Examine Life
* Approach life with childlike wonder.
* Engage life with a vengeance without preconception.
* When the mind is engaged, the soul is most alive.
* Grasp life aggressively and squeeze from it every drop of excitement, satisfaction, and joy.
* Always search for new things, new pleasures.
* Something new is always waiting for you: a place you haven't visited, a book you haven't
read, a friend you haven't met, a meal you haven't tasted.
* Engage life with a vengeance without preconception.
* When the mind is engaged, the soul is most alive.
* Grasp life aggressively and squeeze from it every drop of excitement, satisfaction, and joy.
* Always search for new things, new pleasures.
* Something new is always waiting for you: a place you haven't visited, a book you haven't
read, a friend you haven't met, a meal you haven't tasted.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
SEVEN KEY POINTS OF HOLISTIC FORGIVENESS
1. Forgiveness means to unconditionally accept that what happened to you, happened, even if you don't understand the karmic perfection of it all!
2. Forgiveness is a self-protection mechanism.
3. You need to forgive so you can free your Self of your past hurts and live in the present moment.
4. Forgiveness DOES NOT mean that you are condoning what happened, only that you refuse to accept it as a toxic influence in your life any longer.
5. Forgiveness occurs when you are ready to release yourself from the past.
6. It's God's job, not yours, to determine justice and retribution for improper behavior for in perfect order, we all shall reap what we have sown (Karma).
7. You need to accept unconditionally that in a perfectly evolving Universe, what happened was "perfect" for the evolution of your immortal soul, even if you don't have the foresight or insight to know why!
2. Forgiveness is a self-protection mechanism.
3. You need to forgive so you can free your Self of your past hurts and live in the present moment.
4. Forgiveness DOES NOT mean that you are condoning what happened, only that you refuse to accept it as a toxic influence in your life any longer.
5. Forgiveness occurs when you are ready to release yourself from the past.
6. It's God's job, not yours, to determine justice and retribution for improper behavior for in perfect order, we all shall reap what we have sown (Karma).
7. You need to accept unconditionally that in a perfectly evolving Universe, what happened was "perfect" for the evolution of your immortal soul, even if you don't have the foresight or insight to know why!
Saturday, May 28, 2011
SEVEN STEPS TO COMMUNICATE RESPONSIBLY
1. COMMIT TO USING THE RESPONSIBILITY COMMUNICATION PROCESS. Accept that...your feelings are your feelings, and your feelings are your sole responsibility to heal. When someone upsets you, realize that they may have stepped on your toe, but if your toe still hurts after an hour or so, it hurts because it was already infected. In this case, the source of your pain is rooted in your personal history, not in your partner's less than perfect behavior.
2. HEAL FIRST...PROBLEM SOLVE LAST. To communicate responsibly you need to heal, feel safe, hug and laugh first...then problem solve. When you feel safe it makes it much easier to communicate because you are centered in Truth and you do not need to use your ego defenses because you already feel safe. Remember to refer to the Feelings Chart to help you identify what you are really feeling. If you try to problem solve first, your mind will use "thinking" as a way to distract you from feeling what you are really feeling.
3. OBJECTIVELY OWN YOUR FEELINGS. Always start by identifying and owning that your feelings are your feelings and by using First Party Communication when ever possible..."I need your help in understanding my feelings when....(event) happened. Are you willing to help me understand why I'm feeling what I'm feeling?" Objectively describe what happened without judgment or blame using "I feel" statements.
4. IDENTIFY AND SHARE YOUR FEELINGS AND OBSERVATIONS. Stay conscious to the fact that your thoughts are creating your feelings. If your partner's action trigger pain in you, your Mind must be pulling up information from your memory files...your history. This takes away from the present moment, which is your source of power. Your feelings are being re-created from painful experiences that can go as far back as childhood. That's why you may find yourself asking: "Why is this happening to me....AGAIN?"
5. FOLLOW YOUR FEELINGS TO THEIR SOURCE. Use these Self-mastery Processes, or any other method that you know of, that will help you surface the root cause of your unpleasant feelings. Remember that your mind will use ego defenses in an attempt to minimize your pain.
6. SET AN APPOINTMENT. If it is not the appropriate time or place to use responsibility communication, set an appointment for when and where you can calmly and safely share your FEELINGS. The benefit of setting an appointment is that it will allow you time to center yourself. You'll need to be emotionally calm so that you can maturely identify, understand, and rationally share the real cause of your uncomfortable feelings.
7. LEARN THE EIGHT HELPFUL HINTS FOR SPIRITUAL COMMUNICATIONS. They will help you find the thing, behind the thing, behind the thing, why you are feeling the way you are feeling. Responsibility communication will help you to find the source of your emotional pain. Remember that the pain you are feeling is being stimulated by your partner in the PRESENT, but is usually manifesting from an old relationship from your PAST.
Friday, May 27, 2011
Establishing a healthy self-image for your child
Self-image is what your children project to others because of what they believe and how they feel about themselves. Your children's Self-image equals their attitude, which equals their behavior, which equals their performance, which equals their overall results in life. Your child's Self-image was formed by the time they were pre-schooler's. It is primarily the result of the way that they were treated by you and their other caretakers. It's important to remember that your child's inner Self-picture (Self-image) was developed very, very early in life.
The importance of investing your time to help develop your child's positive Self-image cannot be overstressed. Your children's Self-image is the most important factor in their happiness and overall spiritual fulfillment.
When a child loves him Self, and is taught how to Self-parent him Self, there are literally no obstacles to fulfilling his or her Self-mastery potential. If your children are raised to believe that the world is good, safe place, they will have a tremendous advantage over children who are afraid, insecure and negative. As you begin to implement the seven pieces of Self-parenting with your children they will begin to have an expectation of happiness and serenity, rather than being judgmental of or intimidated by others. They will develop the emotional maturity and inner Self-confidence that is needed to be well-grounded risk takers. It's no exaggeration to say that a strong positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.
The importance of investing your time to help develop your child's positive Self-image cannot be overstressed. Your children's Self-image is the most important factor in their happiness and overall spiritual fulfillment.
When a child loves him Self, and is taught how to Self-parent him Self, there are literally no obstacles to fulfilling his or her Self-mastery potential. If your children are raised to believe that the world is good, safe place, they will have a tremendous advantage over children who are afraid, insecure and negative. As you begin to implement the seven pieces of Self-parenting with your children they will begin to have an expectation of happiness and serenity, rather than being judgmental of or intimidated by others. They will develop the emotional maturity and inner Self-confidence that is needed to be well-grounded risk takers. It's no exaggeration to say that a strong positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Spiritual Parenting
Parents must provide not only outer warmth for their child but also inner warmth. They must create an atmosphere with a sense of security in which the child feels love and acceptance.
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Friday, April 29, 2011
Monday, April 25, 2011
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Coeuressence Coaching
I have started my coaching business. The name of my business is Coeuressence Coaching. The name coeuressence comes from the french word "coeur" meaning heart and the word "essence" meaning true nature.
I hope that you will check out my website which is www.coeuressencecoaching.com
Let me know your thoughts or any suggestions.
Namaste-
I hope that you will check out my website which is www.coeuressencecoaching.com
Let me know your thoughts or any suggestions.
Namaste-
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
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